When violence happens close to you, you are shaken to the core. It’s extra important to take care of yourself so you can better comfort and protect children. Little ones learn lifetime lessons by watching their parents take care of themselves and build their own resilience.  

Pumpkin spice everything, Friday night football jamborees, and having the ability to sit on your front porch and rock without sweating as you enjoy the (semi-cool) evening air. These are all welcome signs of fall in Alabama.  

So, what do we do when we find our children (finally) settled into school routines? What to do when we finally catch a break from the steady string of holidays that necessitate yard decorations, food preparation, and family gatherings that leave us wiped out? We get comfortable and fall around, or course.  

Second to summer, fall is my favorite season because it gives us moms room to just be. Were not chasing our kiddos around the neighborhood like we do during summer as they trek the streets, worrying about how they may be forgetting everything they learned the previous school term. And we’re not yet trying to find a balance between hot and humid Alabama weather one day and potential icy streets the next as we shop for school clothes during winter months. We can relax and find ourselves in a routine void of stress, unpredictability, and busyness.  This fall, I have found so much happiness in the day to day responsibilities that go along with having a family. I’ve especially enjoyed our discovery of intellectually and entertaining day trips that give us time together, help us grow and learn, and help us discover new things about the state in which we live.  

How you support children after community violence depends a lot on their age. Children of different ages will have different needs, and a wide range of reactions is normal.

Build language skills as you create your own fun ways to welcome each day. Here's how...

Intrigued by a recent story I heard about a mom who forgave the drunk driver who killed her son, I surfed the internet for a few more inspiring accounts of forgiveness. I found amazing stories of people who forgave the most horrific offenses. I read of the release it gave them. How they found peace after holding onto pain for weeks, months, and in some instances, years. 

The Impact of Healthy, Nutritious Food...

  • One part of helping children get a healthy start is to offer foods that provide adequate nutrition and the appropriate number of calories.
  • Not only does proper nutrition help children grow to a healthy weight, it also positively influences cognitive development and important to preventing various health conditions.
  • Teaching children about healthy food and nutrition early will increase the likelihood they will continue to make healthy decisions regarding nutrition into adulthood.

In today’s fast-paced world, finding time for family play may be a challenge. However, is it worth it? You bet. Enjoying time together as a family is tremendously beneficial. In fact, for healthy relationships to flourish, it is a necessity. We can schedule time for playing together, and develop the ability to capture unstructured moments of fun.

Very early in life, children learn their actions (e.g. crying, smiling) have an impact on the world and those around them. They also possess an inborn desire to assist others and affect their world. As toddlers, they imitate the actions of adults. They want to help and try very hard to do things for themselves. So, what changes that helpful child who attempts tasks far above her abilities info a helpless 12-year-old who must be coaxed to pick up her socks? We do.

Six years, three months, and 10 days into motherhood, I have noticed some things. I’ve hit a high professionally, my Little is more independent of me and is thriving in his new school environment, and he and I have had conversations that are a little bit more “grown-up” than normal. We’ve talked back and forth, about big people things, with no tantrums or denials of guilt and amusingly solid moments of reflection on his behalf. Is this what it’s like when previous stressors become mere normality, depositing blocks of time back in your day since they are no longer causes for anxiety? I think so. 

What am I to do? Amid moving to a new home, navigating a new business, and learning a new way to school for my Little, there are some key things I’m trying to remember as I learn this new way of motherhood. I’m surviving and growing independent while my Little does the same. 

Bedtime is great for quiet bonding and learning.  Snuggle up and try these ideas.

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