Current COVID-19 restrictions have taken away a lifeline from many children. They’re not going to summer programs. They’re not seeing counselors. And they aren’t interacting as often with friends and neighbors – all of whom might be able to offer help.
When a parent, caregiver, or other loved one becomes ill with COVID-19, the whole family struggles. But there are ways to comfort and reassure children, to offer clear, honest explanations, and to stay connected to the loved one who is sick.
Grief never completely goes away, but over time, it become easier to endure. It’s important for families to give themselves and their children permission to feel happy again. Be assured that the memory of a loved one will continue to live on in everyone’s hearts as the family moves forward. You might try some of these ideas:
When quarantining ends, there will definitely be things that moms don’t miss (hunting for toilet paper, for one). But for moms who stress about planning kids’ birthdays, this lockdown makes things simple. Here are three ways to kick butt while planning a quarantine birthday party.
Decide based on your kid’s personality.
Under normal circumstances, venues for kids’ parties are virtually endless. Quarantine parties, on the other hand, allow for three prime options: virtual, sidewalk or drive-by parades, or immediate family gatherings.
If your child is an extrovert, ask parents of friends to drive by at a designated time with signs and fun music parade-style. If your child loves being behind the screen, connecting with friends in a virtual setting may be the best idea. Finally, for kiddos who are on the younger (or shyer) side, keeping the party small with immediate family works.
Rest assured that your front sidewalk can hold lots of kiddos (six feet apart, of course). Also, you’ll likely have a great showing. Many parents working from home are looking to break up their in-home routine.
Not everyone has a birthday during a national pandemic, so make sure you document everything. As you sort through your new memories, take time to celebrate your good health.
Sometimes a long illness might give families time to confront the possibility of death. Other times, the death of a loved one comes suddenly, as in the case of an accident or suicide. You’ll want to approach the situation differently depending on the circumstances.
During COVID-19, children and families may be experiencing all kinds of loss. Check out these tips for the next few weeks on topics dealing with grief.
As a work from home mom during this school year, I worked hard to find a good balance between freedom, work, and time with my family. I diligently tried to determine the perfect time for dropping off to school in the mornings – not too early – but allowing just enough time for my Little to ease into morning classes. I finally hit the sweet spot for picking up in the afternoons. Kids never want to be the last one picked up, but wow – if they’re picked up before their friends, well mom, you’ve ruined their social time.
Most everyone has heard the flight attendant tell them to put their own oxygen mask on before helping others. The same goes for parenting—your health and well-being is important so that you can nurture your child. Self-care is not selfish or indulgent—it’s how we keep ourselves well to ensure we are physically, emotionally, and mentally capable of being there for our young children.