Why don’t we have our own home anymore?
- Keep your answer as simple as possible, depending on your situation. (For instance, We needed to be somewhere that was safe for us. I lost my job and didn’t have enough money to pay our rent, so we had to leave. The storm ruined our apartment building.)
- This is a result of other terrible things that have happened, and no one deserves to be without a permanent place to live.
Why do we keep moving around? Why can’t we stay in one place?
- We have a place to stay, but it’s not our own place.
- Different people are helping at different times.
- We are in between homes.
When will we have a home? Depending on what you know, consider how to share information (while keeping in mind it might change). You might say:
- The people who are helping us think that it could happen in [one week, one month, in the summer, and so on]. We hope that is true, but it could change.
- Or, I just don’t know for sure, but I hope it will be soon. What I do know is that we’re a strong and brave family, we will get through this, and I will always take care of you.
- Even though we can’t be sure when we will have a home, we know that this is a temporary situation. That means it’s not permanent—it will not last forever.
- We don’t know exactly how and when things will change, but when times are bad, it helps to remember they won’t always be that bad. Nothing ever stays the same, except for the love in our family!
When talking about time, point out that things are always changing, and that means things won’t always be this way. Try watching cloud shapes—point out that they change slowly, with the wind.
When talking about home, stress that home is more than a building—home is about the love and care you have from the grown-ups around you.
Is it my fault?
- Never. It’s a grown-up problem.
- Because I’m the grown-up I’m trying to figure it out; I’m asking for help. I’m working hard to make things better for our family, and other people are trying to help, too.
Why can’t I bring all of my toys and other things?
- Just like you have rules you have to follow at school, the place where we are staying has rules we have to follow too. So one of the rules is that we can only bring a small number of items with us, so we can only take the things we really need.
- There is not enough room where we are staying to keep a lot of things.
Are we going to be okay?
- I will keep you safe and I will always try my best to take care of you.
- This is something we will get through together.
- We will go onto something better in our life. Things won’t always be so hard.
I want to help you/our family. I want to take care of you and fix everything.
- It’s so kind of you to want to help. But this is a grown-up problem and it’s not something that you need to try to fix.
- I am working hard to make things better for our family, and things won’t always be this way.
And you can’t say these things too many times!
- You are safe.
- You’re not alone.
- You are a learner, and no one can take that away from you. You are important and valuable.
- This is a temporary situation. You will get through it.
- We are going to go on to something better. This is like one page in the book of our family (or your life). It is not the whole story.
What will other children think?
- You can explain to them what I just explained to you.
- A good friend will be kind to you about what is happening to our family right now.
- If others are bullying you, tell a teacher or other grown-up who is around, and tell me after school.
And it’s okay to say, I’m not sure how to answer that question; let me think about it for a while.