Reach out, hold his hand or put an arm around him, and begin the conversation. You might say, for instance, “Dad is not here anymore because he died. When a person dies, his body stops working. The heart stops beating and the body stops moving, eating, and breathing.” Explain that death is a natural part of life.
Encourage him to ask any questions, and let him know that you will answer them as best as you can. But remember it’s okay to not have all the answers.
Assure him that even though one parent died, it doesn’t mean the other parent will die, too. You might say, “A person can’t promise that he or she won’t die, but we will take care of ourselves as much as we can.” Or, “It’s our job to enjoy our lives, stay healthy and safe, and let people know how much we love them.”
Sometimes children may not realize death is permanent. They may ask questions such as, “When is Daddy coming back?” Try to use terms such as “died” and “dead.” Although phrases like “sleeping” and “passed away” seem gentler, they may be confusing.
Soothe him by giving big hugs or offering a comfort object to hold, such as a stuffed animal.
Understand that you may have to repeat this conversation, especially for younger children. Have patience and know that children will come to understand over time.
Remind him that you are here to listen and to help. Although no one will ever take the place of the parent who died, many people are love her and here to help.
Explain that he will be cared for. Offer examples of how you and other special family members and friends will be there for him.