These days, there are hundreds of table-setting options, whether you chose casual or fancy for your Thanksgiving meal. With high end paper plates, gorgeous printed paper table runners and wood or silver look disposable utensils, even a “paper plate Thanksgiving” can have a sophisticated theme.
Is it wrong to use paper plates? Miss Manners swoons at the horror. However, most modern etiquette doyennes lean towards the idea that family tradition makes the rule. So, if your family is most comfortable with the “hard to break/easy to clean” paper plate tradition, find some cute ones and enjoy Thanksgiving your way.
Does it not seem like a celebration to you and your family without the china and silver? Then enjoy the special occasion atmosphere the extra preparation affords. Indulge your inner Martha. Not to mention, some of the best family gossip is usually found during the handwashing after the meal.
Another idea: compromise and use the fine china at the “Big” table and paper at the “Littles” table.
Whether you go fancy or casual, don’t forget that the day is about gratitude. Most of all, be grateful for those who surround your table.
Paper Plate Thanksgiving
Easy to clean up
Not breakable (perfect for kids)
Makes serving a large crowd less overwhelming
Some Miss Manners types may faint
Fine China Thanksgiving
If you aren’t going to use the china, why do you have it?
Environmentally friendly (especially if you use cloth napkins too)
Feels more like an occasion
Worth it for smaller gatherings
Miss Manners approves